Your groomsmen are important people to rely on throughout the wedding planning process—from throwing the bachelor party to assisting on the big day. While it’s okay to ask them to handle certain things for you, it’s important that you don’t abuse your power. Treat your groomsmen with respect and you’ll find that your friendships are even stronger after the wedding than they were before. Check out this list of things you shouldn’t say to your groomsmen.
Rachael and Eric were married at the Four Seasons Rancho Escantado Resort in Santa Fe, N.M. on September 20. “We looked for a while for the venue,” Rachael said. “It was the most difficult detail to lock down. We knew we wanted a small wedding, and we wanted to feel like we eloped. When we saw the Four Seasons Rancho Escantado and spoke with their amazing staff, we knew our destination wedding, at home, would be possible. We stayed the whole weekend, and enjoyed having people in one place for three days. It was calm and magical; the grounds make any occasion.” The bride wore a v-neck lace fit ‘n’ flare wedding gown with capped sleeves and an illusion back, accessorized with her hair half-up/half-down in loose curls, floor-length veil, and a pair of t-strap high heels, while the groom wore a black tuxedo, accessorized with a bow tie. “That’s the best part of our wedding, no moment out shined any other,” she said. “We were totally present and in the company of our closest family and friends. I think about all the moments equally. The morning of our wedding day, I took a yoga class at the studio where a few joined me. Eric swam in the pool and soaked in the hot tub and others took the kids for a hike. Everyone was in their element because we were. We had a team of professionals we enlisted and trusted, which means NOT micromanaging.” Once the exchanging of vows were sealed with a kiss, it was official, almost 25 witnessing. Cocktail hour began on the courtyard followed by the reception shortly thereafter. Tables were decorated with ivory linens, white napkins, lace runners, metal centerpieces filled with baby’s breath, lavender, and dusty miller, surrounded by upholstered chairs. “Eric and I decided to pick out gifts for each person individually and give a card with each gift explaining why we chose that present for them,” Rachael said. “We handed out the gifts as a way of thanking these special ones for sharing in our journey with us. That’s the beauty of a small wedding, you love and cherish your guests. Weddings are a personal experience and an intimate attendance represents that.” A three-tiered cake was cut concluded the five-course dinner. The newlyweds’ best advice? “Throw a party that you would want to be at,” she said. “We did what we wanted in the way we wanted. We reduced our guest list to be able to afford the details and elegance important to us. It was all about being in the moment and enjoying the party. Whenever I had a difficult time with details, Eric always reminded me that we were just throwing a party. Thinking of it this way helped me to step out of the ‘I have to’ and into the ‘I want to.'” At the end of the night, they jumped into the pool. How fun!
Tables, chairs, linens, napkins, silverware, and restrooms — the rentals list goes on and on. You should finalize these items about two to three months before your wedding, according to WeddingWire’s free checklist. While they may or may not be included with your venue, be sure to check out this ultimate guide so you don’t forget to account for anything.
Sarah and Dane were married at Mercury Hall in Austin, Texas on November 9. “We loved the Hill Country feel without ever having to leave the center of Austin,” Sarah said. The bride wore a capped sleeve a-line wedding gown with a lace bodice and tulle skirt, accessorized with her hair in an updo, floor-length veil, jeweled sash, and a pair of peep-toe high heels, while the groom wore a light gray suit, accessorized with a navy blue checkered button-up shirt and tie. Bridesmaids wore short purple chiffon dresses and carried bouquets of roses, berries, scabiosa pods, and seeded eucalyptus. “Getting to see each other for the first time,” she said. “We decided to do a first look before walking down the aisle so we could have a moment to ourselves. It was great getting to show off my dress and telling Dane how stunning he looked. Such a perfect, private time to be goofy and settle any last-minute nerves or jitters.” Once the exchanging of vows were sealed with a kiss underneath the giant oak trees, it was official, almost 125 witnessing. Cocktail hour began with mini beer churros on donkeys followed with the reception shortly thereafter. Guests were escorted to their seats via animal figurines. Tables were decorated with white linens, gray napkins, birch wood centerpieces, vintage books, and mason jar candles, surrounded by folding padded chairs. “The food was absolutely amazing, and the same caterer did our cakes as well,” Sarah said. “The groom’s cake was a total surprise to Dane. It was so fun creating it with the caterer and even better getting to see the surprise on Dane’s face when he saw it.” A three-tiered buttercream-frosted cake topped with fruit was cut and served concluding dinner. Fun fact: the other one was a replica of a scene set in the wilderness! In lieu of a favors, donations were made to Heifer International, University Catholic Center, and Christian Veterinary Mission. “We broke out to Michael Jackson’s ‘Thriller’ halfway through our first dance,” she said. “We had been practicing for weeks, and it turned out perfect. Everyone was so surprised.” The newlyweds’ best advice? “Hire a wedding planner!” Sarah said. “Even if it is just the day of stuff, you don’t want to be stressing when you’re tyring to focus on preparing for a marriage. Ours was fantastic, and helped us out so much. We were totally stress-free when the day finally arrived.” At the end of the night, they exited amongst a sea of sparklers and jetted off to their honeymoon.
Need some help finding a wedding anniversary gift for your wife or husband? There’s no need to follow the traditional route based on the respective year you’re celebrating. Instead, get creative with these ideas! We kept it to under $200, so it’s easier on the wallet. Our favorites include: an acrylic painting, marquee light sign, vacation fund, and a cook book. Click through the slideshow here.