Recent Etiquette + Advice Posts
By: Leeor Pilo
Photos (from left to right): KEKA HERON and Pirouette Photography
Of course you want to look your best on your wedding day, and a beauty mishap like a broken heel, a stain on your dress, or dare we say a pimple on your face is an absolute nightmare to deal with on any day let alone the biggest day of your life! Although we’re crossing our fingers that you’ll never have to deal with any of these beauty blunders, here’s a list of quick fixes to keep you armed and ready:
Broken Heel - The dreaded broken heel — not only is this mishap embarrassing but also can be pretty painful too! The first step to solving this mishap is avoiding it. Always have a spare pair of shoes on hand just in case. If you don’t have another pair, consider investing in Shoe Goo. It’s about $6.00 and will repair your heel within an hour.
Stains - Another item to pack on the day of: stain removal sticks! If those aren’t handy, baby powder and rubbing alcohol are great for removing red wine and oil stains. Dab, never wipe, and make sure you soak up as much of the stain as possible first; then dab with a white towel soaked in hot water and cover with baby powder.
Skin Breakout - Over-the-counter salicylic acid or benzoyl peroxide won’t do the trick this late in the game. They’ll just dry the blemish out and make it harder to cover up. Instead, press a hot damp towel against the blemish to reduce any swelling and take ibuprofen to reduce redness and inflammation. (Just be careful on the dosage if you’re drinking!) When it comes time for makeup, ask your makeup artist for concealer that’s just a shade lighter than your skin. They’re professionals, they’ll take it from there.
Fallen Updo - You strutted your stuff on the dance floor and now your hair is all bent out of shape? If it’s just a few pieces, have your bridal party pin it back together with a few bobby pins. If your once beautiful chignon has morphed into a bird’s nest, shake your hair out, finger comb with just a pea-sized amount of conditioner (less for finer hair) and twist hair into a side ponytail or braid. Pin a flower behind your ear for good measure. Another option for the crafty bride, cut the toes off a sock and roll it into a donut shape. Ta-da! A DIY hair donut! Tie your hair up in a high ponytail and have your bridal party pin sections of your hair around the sock to create a sleek and chic ballerina bun.
Orange Sunless Glow - If you overdo it on the spray tan, and you wake up looking more like an Oompa-Loompa than a bride-to-be, soak in hot water infused with lemon to open your pores and loosen your skin. The natural citric acid found in lemon does wonders with removing pigment. If you don’t have time for a bath (it is your wedding day after all) a hot shower will do. Exfoliate with a loofah in circular motions as moving up and down can cause streaks. Thankfully, sunless tan removers are now sold at most local retailers. For the stubbornest of tans, consider investing in a bottle to really do the trick.
Whether they’re your nieces, nephews, or cousins, there’s a chance they’ll be in attendance at your wedding. Here’s how to keep them (and their parents) happy throughout the reception:
1. Arts & Crafts - Have a “kids-only” table with coloring books, crayons, colored pencils, stickers, (washable) markers, and stencils.
Photo: A Brit & A Blonde
Photo by Lane Dittoe
The wedding bells have rung, the vows have been exchanged, and you and your spouse are fresh from your honeymoon and settling into newlywed life. As you begin an exciting new chapter as a married couple, don’t forget to check off these post-wedding to-dos!
1. Freeze the top of your wedding cake to eat on your 1st anniversary.
2. Write your thank you notes.
3. Review your wedding vendors.
4. Preserve your wedding gown.
5. Change your last name (if that’s your plan).
6. Notify your employer of change in name and relationship status for tax purposes.
7. Change your relationship status to “married” on Facebook!
8. Return or exchange any registry gifts you may not want or need.
9. Manage your joint checking accounts.
10. Create a wedding photo album (and a honeymoon album, scrapbook, or other creative documentation of the trip!)
By: Sarah Zlotnick
Photo: Stephanie W. Photography
Wedding receptions are supposed to be a place of love, laughter, and epic dance moves. Avoid awkward glances and embarrassing your new in-laws by making sure these ten songs are securely situated on your DJ’s “Do Not Play” list.
1. “Love Stinks” by J. GieIs Band
If there’s anything we learned from The Wedding Singer (fast forward to 1:50 of this scene), it’s that wedding receptions are the #1 place to not air personal relationship grievances. Let’s try a little more positive outlook on love, shall we?
The Worst Verse: You love her / But she loves him / And he loves somebody else / You just can’t win / And so it goes / Till the day you die / This thing they call love / It’s gonna make you cry
2. “Gold Digger” by Kanye West
Catchy, we know. And a hit on almost any dance floor. But do you really want to be surrounded by a roomful of people singing about blatant materialism mere hours after you got married?
The Worst Verse: If you ain’t no punk holla we want prenup / We Want Prenup! Yeah / It’s something that you need to have / ‘Cause when she leave yo a** she gonna leave with half
3. “Somebody That I Used To Know” by Gotye
An angsty alt-rock song about an extremely painful break-up. Heavy radio play aside, what about this says wedding song?
The Worse Verse: But you didn’t have to cut me off / Make out like it never happened and that we were nothing / And I don’t even need your love / But you treat me like a stranger and that feels so rough
4. “Forget You” by Cee-Lo Green (the uncensored version)
Grandma is going to be offended by a certain four letter word, and the last thing you need is a slightly tipsy (and recently jilted) attendee grabbing the DJ’s mic and dedicating the ditty to a former flame.
The Worst Verse: Now I know, that I had to borrow / Beg and steal and lie and cheat / Trying to keep ya / Trying to please ya / ‘Cause being in love with your a** ain’t cheap.
5. “If You Want to Be Happy” by Jimmy Soul
This 1963 chart-topper could not be any more cringe-worthy on a bride’s big day. Even those with the steeliest senses of humor should avoid.
The Worse Verse: If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life / Never make a pretty woman your wife.
6. “It Wasn’t Me” by Shaggy
No songs about cheating, please and thanks. Especially no songs about cheating and then vehemently lying about it.
The Worst Verse: To be a true player you have to know how to play / If she say a night, convince her say a day / Never admit to a word when she say / And if she claims and you tell her baby no way
7. “My Humps” by The Black Eyed Peas
If it’s going to make your grandparents blush, save it for the bachelorette party.
The Worse Verse: What you gon’ do with all that junk? / All that junk inside that trunk? / I’ma get, get, get get you drunk / Get you love drunk off my hump
8. “Closer” by Nine Inch Nails
Far too raw, graphic, and visceral for any family-oriented event.
The Worst Verse: You let me violate you / you let me desecrate you / you let me penetrate you / you let me complicate you
9. “Bad Touch” by The Bloodhound Gang
See #7. Seriously folks, if you wouldn’t leave it on with your parents or kids in the car, don’t put it in the playlist.
The Worst Verse: You and me baby ain’t nothing but mammals / So let’s do it like they do on the Discovery Channel
10. “D-I-V-O-R-C-E” by Tammy Wynette
No explanation required.
The Worst Verse: Our D-I-V-O-R-C-E becomes final today / Me and little J-O-E will be goin’ away / I love you both and this will be pure H-E double L for me / Oh, I wish that we could stop this D-I-V-O-R-C-E.
Photo: The Bird & The Bear Photography & Films
Part of the fun of planning your wedding is truly making the day your own. All too often couples get caught up in following “the rules” of wedding planning and end up with an event that feels cookie-cutter. Our advice: if a wedding tradition doesn’t feel right to you, skip it! Here are our top 10 traditions that you can totally skip on your wedding day. You don’t have to…
Wear a white dress (or a veil!)
Have the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen (or have a wedding party at all!)
Toss the bouquet or garter
Wear something old, new, borrowed, or blue
Have a receiving line
Write your own vows
Have your dad (or anyone!) give you away
Waiting until the ceremony to see each other
Have a first dance
Seat the bride’s side and groom’s side separately
Which wedding traditions are you skipping on your wedding day? Which traditions are you planning on keeping?