Recent Etiquette + Advice Posts
Whether or not you decide to change your last name after marriage is totally your call. While the process of changing your name might sound daunting, as long as you are prepared and organized, it’s really not that difficult. Here’s how the process should work:
- Marriage License You’ll need to get your hands on your marriage license before you can change your name. Make sure it’s noted on the license that you are planning on changing your last name.
- Social Security Card Once you have your marriage license, you first need to get your name changed on your Social Security Card to make it official – your name isn’t officially changed until you do so. Visit your local Social Security Office or mail your application.
- Driver’s License and Passport After you’ve received your new Social Security Card, you can go ahead and change your name on your passport, driver’s license, credit cards, etc.
And if this all still sounds scary to you, Miss Now Mrs is here to help! This service will help you organize and fill out your forms in a flash so the process is super-easy and straightforward. And there’s even more good news: Miss Now Mrs is offering a special Groupon on their name-changing service for just $15 (it’s normally $29.95). Check out this link for more details – the deal expires in just a few hours so get moving! And let us know in the comments if you’re changing your name, and why or why not!
Photo by Servidone Studios
You probably want to shout the news of your engagement from the rooftops. And while that may be an option, there are more efficient ways to share your big news. Here’s the right way to do it.
1. Tell Your VIPs Some couples prefer to enjoy a few private days of being engaged before spreading the word, while others want to share the news right away. However you decide to proceed, be sure to tell your closest family members and friends first – preferably in person, or, if there’s a long distance between you, by phone. Usually the bride’s family is the first to know, then the groom’s, then close relatives and friends. As you’re telling family and friends, let them know to keep the news off Facebook and Twitter until you give them the go-ahead. It may take a few days to get in touch with all of the people you want to tell via phone or in person, so be patient!
2. Get Formal The most traditional way to announce your engagement is to send out formal engagement announcements and/or place an ad in a local newspaper. While you certainly don’t have to go this route, it’s commonplace in some areas, so feel free to go for it! Check out some announcement cards in our photo gallery.
3. Have a Party Engagement parties are a fun way to celebrate your exciting news. You can go a few routes with this: you or either set of parents can throw a party, or your friends may offer to throw a celebration. It’s important to note that if you or your parents are hosting, you should only invite guests who you fully intend to invite to the wedding. If your friends are hosting, they can be more lax with the guest list. We recommend keeping things relatively casual for your engagement celebration – a cocktail reception at a favorite restaurant or a backyard BBQ, rather than a formal event at a grand space. Find vendors for your engagement party on EventWire.
4. Set Up a Site If you’ve got a great proposal story (and really, who doesn’t?), share it on your wedding website. The link to this site should only be provided to those who are actually invited to your wedding, though.
5. Take Some Pictures Set up an engagement session with your photographer, once you’ve booked him or her. You can use the photos for save-the-dates, your wedding website, and at your wedding itself.
How are you announcing your engagement? Let us know in the comments!
Have you ever noticed how much food is left over from a cocktail hour or a wedding reception? There’s a lot—from leftover rolls, bread, butter, cheese, seafood, chicken, salad and desserts—that could be donated to your local soup kitchens or pantries to help those who are less fortunate.
A wedding is the perfect opportunity to give back to your community. Across America, one out of seven households is “food insecure.” That’s 17.2 million households, or 14.5 percent of all American households that are not sure when they might eat their next meal or where it will come from.
Let your event planner, caterer or venue know if you would like to donate to the hungry. Thanks to the Bill Emerson Good Samaritan Act passed in 1996, there are no liability issues in donating food to non-profits so long as the donation is in good faith, and the donor has not been negligent in appropriate care of the food. In fact, The New England National Association of Catering and Events’ Feeding Our Neighbors Initiative was one of the first event-industry based initiatives to encourage food donation from events.
Brides, grooms and parents should consider this option. Communication is key. Inform your caterer, venue and event planner of this information. You can even include this in your contract by adding, “leftover food will be donated to _______ and will be arranged to be picked up the following day.
However, you should contact a local food pantry or shelter at least two weeks prior to your wedding to coordinate pick-up and determine what kind of food the non-profit accepts. This will vary, with some shelters being more willing to come that night or the next day after your reception to take any leftover food, to other non-profits, who will have more limited availability and stringent regulations for what types of food are acceptable.
For more information on food donations and a list of food rescue centers in your area, please visit the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency or EPA.
Photos (from top to bottom): Jodi Miller Photography and Amber Wilkie Photography
What’s an “unplugged” wedding? This is when a couple asks their guests to turn off all electronic devices, including, cellphones, smart phones and cameras, during their ceremony and reception.
Why do this? Having an “unplugged” wedding allows for the professional photographers and videographers to do their job and allows for your guests to be more present and not be distracted by uploading their own photographs to Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.
What do you think of this trend? Let us know in the poll below.
Photo by Blink of an Eye Photography
For some brides, finding the right pair of wedding shoes is tougher than selecting the dress! It’s important to be comfortable (you’ll be on your feet a lot) but you’ll want to make sure your shoes fit your style, as well. If you’re having a glamorous ballroom wedding, go all out and wear a pair of sparkly heels (like the gorgeous pair pictured above!). But if you’re getting married on the grass or sand, avoid heels that will sink into the ground – try flats or wedges instead. Check out these shoe-shopping tips, and tell us about your wedding shoes: